So, if you follow me on Instagram, you might’ve seen my most recent post on Friday about the craziest thing that happened while my mom was visiting me at school in December. She decided to make a trip out to New York at the beginning of the month, both to see me perform in my end of semester show and to celebrate my 20th birthday with me. That monday after my performances, we planned to just do some sight seeing, shop in Soho, and go to see the Rockettes Christmas Spectacular. That day happened to consist of a forecast of consistent pouring rain, so about halfway through the day we decided to just kill time with indoor activities until it was time to go watch the Rockettes. While we were at the Oculus, a shopping mall and tourist attraction near the 9/11 memorial, a young woman approached us. She worked for the Rachel Ray morning talk show and wanted to know if my mom wanted an all expense paid makeover for a segment on their Christmas Eve show. Things like this don’t typically happen to us and definitely not to her.
Now, ironically, my mom is probably the last person in need of a makeover. Everyone in my life who has either known the both of us from when I was a little thing, or has just seen pictures, comments on how she has not aged one bit. She really is a timeless beauty (at least in my eyes). For how beautiful she is, many probably assume she spends loads of time and money on maintaining her looks, but surprisingly the least amount of time in her day is spent on herself. Her focus is and has always been others. My dad, myself, her work, family, and friends are her primary concerns. Her own needs might cross her mind, but she’ll throw those thoughts to the side amidst navigating all her commitments to make the people she loves happy. Aside from this super random makeover being a fun and abnormal experience that we can look back on and smile about, it made me realize just how little my mom ever gets. She never gets to go shopping, or to pamper herself, or to just sit and be waited on the way she was for those few hours. Even across the country I’m calling her to ask how long to cook chicken for, how to clean the oven, or how to manage my finances. Still, back at home, she has to take care of my dad (a.k.a another child), all while running her own business. Most of the time I forget that she doesn’t have to do any of the things she does, but because she always has without complaint, I take it for granted. She doesn’t deserve that. She doesn’t deserve to be taken for granted. She doesn’t deserve for me to forget that she is a person and that “mom” or “wife” are not her only defining titles. She deserves more. All moms, who care for their families the way my mom does, deserve more. I’m hoping this experience will help my mom to allow herself to be a little more selfish, and remind me to be a little less selfless and a little more patient with her. (And to just tell her I love her more often, because that’s always good to). Maybe you don’t have a mom who deserves more, but you have a dad, a grandparent, an aunt or uncle, or a mentor who has a similar impact on your life. They deserve more too. Make sure that they know they do. Love Always, Jen
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Macey
1/20/2020 08:10:20 am
Awww I love this Jen! Your mama is stunning and you’re so right that moms deserve more 💛
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Jenavieve Anna Capri
Hi guys, I just wanted to pop in and let you know a few things about me. I'm a Commercial Dance major at Pace University. I nanny on the side to help me afford living in this beautiful city. I live by the three Ts - Trader Joes, TJ Max, and Target. If it's salted caramel anything, I will gladly put it in my mouth. In my eyes Disneyland is the OG and Disney World will never compare. Hopefully, you'll choose to continue to get to know me more through these blog posts and my social media. Connect With Me:
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